The Vagina Dialogues - A sensation!

on 15 January 2016.

lis allen 3Always keen to support local events, Townsite was nevertheless apprehensive to attend Lis Allen's Vagina Dialogues event at Herongate Leisure centre last night. Allen herself admits that the title is off-putting for some: 'People hear the word vagina and go, aarrgghh!'

It was comforting to discover that the event was less about a body part and more concerned with the feelings and experiences of the whole woman. Lis Allen is one who bears the scars of a life well-lived, and through her Vagina Dialogues events is reaching out to others and creating a forum for the sharing of wisdom about the role of women, specifically mothers, and the profound effect they have on us all, their legacy an imprint we often bear for a lifetime, not always for the better. On the screen is a quote from Anthony Powell, 'Parents are sometimes a bit of a disappointment to their children. They don't fulfil the promise of their early years.'

Allen is a warm and fluent speaker who combines the latest in behavioural insight with a kind of homespun wisdom which puts the audience at their ease. As one who has always favoured scowling from the back of the classroom it was discomfiting to discover that I would have to contribute to the evening and talk to the other members of the audience. But it is part of Lis' mission to push us out of our comfort zone. Personally, I am usually trying to get into mine but I couldn't help but be moved and frequently amused by the sharing of confidences from this generous and good-humoured audience.

The honesty of these brave women who shared often long-suppressed fears and desires was liberating. What emerged from the sharing was a realisation that we all bear the imprint of negative voices from our childhood, moreover that they hold us back and contribute to limiting self-beliefs. But Lis' approach is neither strident nor angry, she simply wants to encourage us to make the small changes which might set us free using the power of focus and intention to realise our hopes. In her own sweet way, she is starting a quiet revolution.

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